Asexual Playlist: Katie Costello

In an earlier post, I suggested Robyn’s Fembot was a good tongue-in-cheek song for asexuality, the main message of her lyrics being that being the “new thing,” I might not be what is expected, but I can still get turned on and, if you know how to do it, it will be a good ride.…

Romantic Friends Were Oh So Normal Once*

Sometimes it may make us feel a bit shy or like we are complaining about the impossible when we say how we wish our friendships could be closer in so many ways. We want to cuddle with people or sleep in the same bed or show affection for people regardless of our orientation or theirs.…

Upcoming Studies

Edit: I have sent off IRB paperwork for two new, albeit shorter studies I’m going to be working on simultaneously with my dissertation.  1. One is about those who are lesbian asexuals.  2. The other is about those who use the terms celibate and asexual. So I will send out an invitation call probably later…

Dating as an Asexual: Mission Possible

As a person with non-normative boundaries (an asexual person), dating might seem impossible. How early do you let someone know you are asexual – when you realize there is interest there, when they ask you out, on the first date? Some might think “what is the point”? Won’t they (we are talking about dating in…

Better than Sex. . . Cake? On the Sweet Symbol of Asexuality

Is asexuality a sweet, delectable treat? Something to celebrate not just on birthdays (I’m born!) but when we are being naughty with a nighttime nibble? Licking the frosting caked with crumbs from our special friend’s lips or our own, smiling because of the rush you suddenly cannot distinguish whether it is coming from sugar or…